Eyes meet eyes and there’s a deep, profound connection. It’s heady and romantic and sexy and both of you get wrapped up in it, finishing each other’s’ sentences, living in each other’s hip pockets like you’ve known one another for years and years. This romance seems meant to be, almost as if you’d been Soul Mates in a past life. The possibilities appear to be limitless.
Except there’s a catch–the timing couldn’t possibly be worse. Wouldn’t a Time Machine come in handy right about now?
This was on the mind of our Querent, Madison who asked the following: “Hi Raven! It seems that I’ve met and fallen in love with the right person, but at the wrong time. Something tells me it isn’t supposed to be over, that there is more to our story than this. I love this man and would be willing to do what it would take for our story to continue, even if it means letting him go for a while in hopes that our timelines will match up. Everything seems so right between us, except for when we met. Can there be such a thing as letting love go only to have it again in life, or is my hopeless romanticism futile?”
Hey, Madison! I did a spread called The Star this week because it’s quite useful for figuring out what really matters in any given situation, and is wonderful for gaining clarity. It’s also a terrific spread for advice, and for sparking new ways to think about conundrums like this one!
Card 1. Where You Are Now: 6 of Pentacles, reversed
Oftentimes, when the 6 of Pentacles reversed comes up in a Love reading, you might feel you are the only one doing all the giving. A relationship may seem, at least at present, rather one-sided. One of you could be in a situation like this or, conversely, afraid of being beholden to the other; reluctant to be seen as taking advantage of the other person’s generosity. Sometimes one simply doesn’t want to do a lot of giving–emotionally, physically, financially or otherwise–until we know that the relationship will be reciprocal. There’s a certain wariness about being too open-hearted at this stage in the game.
Card 2. Advice for the Situation: Page of Cups
Madison, this is a time to communicate from the heart. If you truly believe that what you have with your fella is the real deal, you should try being open and tell him exactly how you feel. You don’t have to go overboard here and make declarations that leave you feeling vulnerable, but you should definitely let him know what your feelings are about this situation and encourage him to do the same. This is one of those things where the conversation really needs to be in person, so when you have an opportunity, speak up! Be gentle, be loving, but be honest.
Card 3. The Challenge You Must Face: The Queen of Pentacles, reversed
The Queen of Pentacles may be trying to tell you that this is a time to really pamper yourself, so knock it off with the self-criticism, and remember just how beautiful you truly are. This is a time to behave like you love yourself as much as you would like to be loved by another! If you start tearing yourself down in a fit of suddenly feeling inadequate–quit that! Go look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I am enough. I am beautiful.” Then believe it.
Card 4. Positive Uses of Your Energy At This Time: 6 of Swords, reversed
The last thing you need right now is to make this situation more stressful that it has to be. So quit chewing on this obsessively, and don’t get yourself into a situation where you’re trying to emotionally rescue someone else. What’s needed instead is a bit of perspective and distance. Move out the maelstrom of frantic thinking and cultivate serenity. Yeah, I know. The Tarot never tells you to do anything easy, but there it is.
Card 5. More Positive Actions: Death, reversed
Don’t give up, don’t dump him! Right now the situation you’re in may make you feel as if you’re a fly stuck in amber–trapped and in stasis. This is a great time to jettison some of the outworn thoughts you have cluttering up your mental closet–about yourself, about relationships in general–so that something new and beautiful can be born. Let go of what doesn’t work, but don’t throw out the baby with the bath water!
Card 6. The Crucial Insight: 2 of Pentacles
This card calls for balance and flexibility in all things, including love. You and your guy may have to do a lot of juggling in order to make this work, but it can be done. Don’t lose sight of other obligations, pastimes, and your other friends while carrying on this affair of the heart. There’s a need for both parties to be fluid enough to accommodate each other’s schedules, and sometimes even be open to traveling between two residences or even cities.
Wrapping It Up
Madison, this reading is actually quite positive where this budding relationship is concerned. Your best bet may be to wait for a good opportunity for a heart-to-heart talk, and see where that leads. Don’t give up just yet. Play it cool, take loving care of yourself, and see where this leads. You may be pleasantly surprised!
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